Visit to Hyde Park

I have just returned from a visit with my friend, Doris Powell, to Hyde Park for the re-dedication of Franklin Roosevelt High School. Doris, "Coxie" was a member of the first graduating class. Seven members of the class survive and five made it to the ceremony.

The ceremony at the re-dedication of the Roosevelt School was very lovely and appropriate. David Roosevelt, Elliot's son, spoke. It was full of meaning for the community and the emphasis on education, supported by both Franklin and Eleanor. The school building has been placed on the list of National Historic Places.

The next day I got up early and went to Valkill, Eleanor's private place. What a beautiful spot. She and two of her friends had built a stone cottage there. Franklin had given them life tenancy on the land. It is the place you see pictured. Eleanor didn't live there. She visited and she and the two friends started a furniture factory right there to train local people and give them work during the depression. It went broke on 1936, Eleanor said she was their main customer, so she closed it and rebuilt it for a residence for herself. it is spacious but modest.

Eleanor lived mostly in one wing, LR, DR, Kitchen, secretary's small apartment down stairs and her bed room, sleeping porch, two guest rooms up stairs. The park service is refurbishing it as it was during her tenancy. John, her son, had given or sold the contents at auction when she died. Luckily the local museum had come and taken pictures of the rooms and they had the records of who had purchased what at the auction. The Park service is tracking things down.

Ken Burns has just completed shooting for a film on the Roosevelts and the Ranger said he came up with a number of pieces. The film will be out in about two years so I'll look for it. I loved his film on Mark Twain.

Being Ken's Wife

Someone has emailed Ezra and wants to know what it was like to live with Ken Hale.

This inquiry has gotten me thinking.

It must be different to live your life with someone who has a special gift, has a unique ability, recognized by the people with whom he interacts.

I think my realization came gradually because I had known Ken since we were quite young, he twelve and I fourteen. Initially I was attracted to him because I thought him handsome. His special interest just seemed part of him. He was also interested in Gun Smithing and Trapping. So I just thought, "that is who he is."

He seemed very attracted to me and was always there and available as a boyfriend whenever our lives intersected.

He once said to me, “Why did you choose me?”

I said, “No bad vibes.”

He was very hurt by this but I think he didn’t realize how many men there were out there with serious flaws, from a woman’s point of view.

We kind of grew up, went through life, and were separated by death. I’ve had a few dreams about him since he died and feel they are insights into our relationship.

About two weeks after Ken’s death I dreamed I came into our bed room and he was standing on his side of the bed in his robe that I had made him.

He said, “I’m sorry”.

I threw my arms around him and hugged him and said,

“I miss you so.” And he was gone.

5/21/04: I dreamed Ken rode up on a bicycle and dismounted. I threw my arms around him and kissed and kissed him on his cheek.

I said, “I’m so lonely, stay with me.”

He said, “I can’t” and disappeared.

5/16/08 I dreamed I was in a Market and realized I didn’t have the car keys to get myself home.

I started calling, “Ken, Ken”. And was distressed at how weak, and feeble my voice sounded.

I tried to call louder, younger. I saw Ken coming toward me wearing a shirt he had of red and white plaid. He was pushing a grocery cart and alternately smiling and looking concerned.

I thought, “There he is. He will get me home.”

I think living with a Polyglot concerns two Domains: one is the Language Gift and the other Personality.

I remember reading J. P. Harrington’s wife’s autobiography with a lot of interest even before I thought of myself as being married to someone with language phenomena.

Her book was titled; Encounter with an Angry God. Now here was a linguist, gifted, who was incredibly difficult. I’ve since learned that he must have been paranoid. He hid his notes and manuscripts in many different places and some were never found.

I realized pretty early in our marriage that Ken had just one interest, languages; all languages. He never ranked them as worthy of study. He did acknowledge that some were more “difficult” to learn than others. (Navajo, Gaelic, Basque).

I think my support of his interest first evolved around my realization that this was how he was going to support us financially. That language work was what he was suited for and what he wanted to do and that teaching this interest could bring in an adequate salary.

As the wife in this marriage it was my obligation to help him succeed in this profession.

This support from me meant going where he wanted to go and freeing him up to do his work while I did the rest, the household, entertaining, finances, children in the family.

This division of labor worked well for us. He worked hard, was successful professionally earned an adequate income for our needs and didn’t second guess my decisions about family matters. I did realize that this gave him what he wanted, time to do his “work”. He did show some initial irritation when I would ask for help that took him away from his work. Usually he would stop what he was doing and “get it over with so that I can get back to work”.

He would do the requested task willingly after expressing the initial irritation with the interruption.

The parts of Ken that I admired were his generosity, his ability to have a unique window into other cultures through their languages. He was a strong and articulate advocate.

Often he was reluctant to defend him self but he would become a Gladiator for the down trodden minority ( Native Americans, Australian Aborigines, indigenous remnant tribes of Nicaragua ) faced with a voracious majority.

I admired his willingness to share his materials and insights. He felt there was such a wealth of language and grammar in the world that he could never do everything he wanted to do in his lifetime.

“I’ve got to interest other people in working on this.” (problem)

In thinking about the existence of God, he said, “I think if there is evidence of the existence of God it is Grammar.”

I think he was puzzled by my lack of interest in Languages. I remember him trying to interest me by saying, “Each new language is like a mystery to be solved.”

He was strongly opposed to the death penalty.

He said, “Imagine being the poor person who everyone wants to die, how alone you would feel.”

That gave me pause and I have felt that I should support his insight.

Before Ken died I said to him:

“I’m going to miss you.”

“I’ll always be around you.”

“If I move will you be able to find me?”

“I have tricks.”

September 23, 2010,

I am missing Ken a lot today. Thinking how time stopped for him and continued for me. I feel like I left him, back there, somewhere, alone.

I remember before he died, when he was unable to leave our room he said, “I’m afraid you are going to go off and leave me here ( abandon me ).”

It seemed such a logical understandable fear. It was the first time he could not physically follow me. I said everything I could think of to reassure him.

“I wouldn’t leave you for anything.”

“I’m not going anywhere.”

September 25, 2010

I am remembering that about one month before he died, when he was pretty much bed bound, I decided to wash Ken’s feet.

I spread the towel on the floor and had him sit on the side of the bed. I brought a large plastic basin (the one I used to make bread in) filled with warm water. I placed his feet in the water to soak then soaped them up and rubbed of the old skin. I dried each one then cut his toenails. We finished up with baby powder.

I remember how he smiled and how pleased he looked. He deeply enjoyed the loving personal touch. I’m so glad I did it and have this memory.

Transcontinental Rail Journey,1940

Some time in the spring of 1940 my Mother gave up her attempt to establish a new home in Mill Valley California and surrendered to my father’s demands and enticements that she return to cohabit with him in a new community, Patchogue, Long Island, New York. This meant giving up the duplex on which she had put a down payment, closing her bank account, selling our Buick car which had transported us from New York State, a 3-4 month stop in Canelo Arizona at “Turkey Creek Ranch”, and deposited us at the end of the trail, Mill Valley California. I was taken out of school. Good byes were said to a Finnish lady friend, Club Member Marie Krell, Aunt Emily Boyden, Aunt Alice Hatcher.

We mounted the transcontinental train and I entered a new and magic world of travel. The 5-7 days of confinement on our long and narrow traveling hotel passed quickly. I must have had a suitcase with enough cloths for the journey. I don’t remember it. My mother took care of that. What I do remember was my plaid woolen dress, a little scotch cap with a feather and a small purse. I may have had small white gloves too. My mother certainly had white gloves.

We were ensconced in a numbered seat, comfortable, upholstered with a small table fitted into the side of the rail car. There was a large window over our seat and table from which, you could watch the passing towns and countryside. Our meals were taken in the dining car. The railroad gave me some little books with which to entertain my self. I still have some of them. Morning Star: a Little Pueblo Girl, Watlala: An Indian of the Northwest, Gray Bird: A Little Plains Indian, Nigalek: A Little Eskimo Boy. They were little paperbacks, in color, illustrated by Roger Vernam. They were published by the Platt and Munk Co. Inc. Today I notice some coloring of the black and white pictures, with colored pencil, carefully staying in the lines, so they were duel purpose books to be read and colored. I’m sure my Mother also had a deck of playing cards for “Go Fish” and “Old maid”. I don’t think I was up to “Rummy” yet.

The days settled into their own rhythm. Meals in the dining car, the tables set with white linen and polished silver. Black waiters in white jackets took our orders from the presented menus. Tables must have been assigned because for some extended period we sat across the table from two young traveling salesmen in business suits.

One evening when the Waiter presented the check to the businessmen, one of them said, “The young lady is taking care of our check.” Where upon, the Waiter gave it to me. Fortunately I had the old checkbook to my mother’s closed account in my purse. I whipped it out, scribbled something on the blank check, tore it off and gave it to the waiter. At breakfast the next morning the waiter brought my check to our table and said, “Young lady, I have to tell you this check is no good.”

While we were at dinner our car was magically transformed. We left a light spacious car lined with seats and tables, windows on both sides and returned to a long corridor draped top and bottom with dark green curtains. My mother and I slept in an upper bunk. This dropped down above our seat. During the day it was a curved ceiling engaged above our window and the top of the center aisle. We entered our compartment via a ladder moving the curtain aside and landing on a comfortable bed all made up. A mesh hammock was strung along the wall for out cloths. Reverse magic happened while we were at breakfast.
We stopped in Chicago and had a few hours layover while out train was reconfigured. My father had arranged for his Cousin, Howard King, to meet us there and chaperone us for a few hours.

When we arrived in New York City, there was my father to meet us. I must not have seen him for 6 months and was mystified as to how he had known where we were and managed to meet us.

"I know a place."

It is easy to get anxious, depressed in today's world.

I was drawn to the news on the internet, TV like a moth to a flame. I felt wired. How bad can things get?

I got in my car. My cousins were coming from Oregon for their annual visit to the farm.
The Farm is in Vermont. It has been in the family for over 100 years. I have been visiting on a regular basis since 1968.

Driving into the valley below the farm, I could feel myself beginning to unwind. As I drove up the driveway I took a deep breath.

Here is a place that doesn't change. It restores my soul.

Our Schools are in trouble

Arlington Massachusetts is having to decrease music and art, foreign language introduction. Class sizes are increasing as well. This is because there is a one million annual short fall in the budget for public education.
'
This is the next generation of Americans we're talking about. They come into a culture that is going to demand high math skills, engineers, doctors, teachers, a world view. We need an educated body politic to make wise decisions when they vote.

Where are we spending out treasure, Iraq, Afghanistan, bailing out our excesses from the past, Fanny Mae, Freddy Mac, Goldman Sacks, and Citibank?

The Lunatic Fringe wants less Government, Less Regulation.

It is easy to get depressed these days.

I am grateful that Barrack Obama is willing to serve in this difficult trying time. It is useful to contrast him with Senator Lindsey Graham. I watched him, Graham, display his Idea Fix, convictions from the Bush/Chaney era at the Senate hearings on Afghanistan. After delivering a totally ignorant and stupid line of questioning to General Petraeus, he got up and stomped out of the hearing. God save us from these Senators who are stuck in the past.

Letter to James Carville

Dear Mr. Carville,

I have been watching you come apart on TV. For me it is one of the most distressing processes related to the Oil catastrophe.

You are an articulate intelligent political man. We need you to make the connection with this event and our modern life style.

Take a breath and think about this in the larger sense. Very few people are making the connection. Please note the adds following the news from the Gulf on CNN. There is Lexus, touting the speed of it's cars, wheels spinning. How insensitive it that!

Obama is between a rock and a hard place. We need to shift the economy away from Coal and Oil, Gas but we can't do it quickly if we want to control the deficit.

People who have the "public ear" need to help people see the connection between our reckless use of energy and the destruction of the Planet. It isn't just BP and the Federal Government, it is ALL OF US.

I have always enjoyed your comments, so "right on". Now you are so upset I can't understand you, speaking so fast. "Time out" to regroup.

Best regards to you. I am so sorry. I know you are watching the death of the life and place you love.

Bern Kilgariff

Thanks, David. Looking at the picture of Bernie and Aileen I remember one time she loaned me blankets, I think it was when we moved from the Oasis Motel to the little stone house on the Todd, which she had found for us. She asked for them back because, "we have only two blankets for each child."

Their past is ours too. Love, Sally